I know in this social media day and age, it can be easy to assume people are so much better than you based off their follower count and super rad adventures…but I’m here to tell you that isn’t always the case. Just because you see a “glimpse” of someones life, please do not assume that’s their only measure of success. I will be the first to admit, I am one of those people, who obsesses over their instagram feed…always making sure there’s a beautiful aesthetic to my madness…but my tiny corner of the social media world is just that…a tiny little corner of photos in the big scheme of things. I try and keep my feed consisting mostly of business/wedding things with a tad bit of personal stuff mixed in the loop. I always try to keep my social media presence a positive place filled with beautiful words and photos. My reasoning is simple.
There is a lot of bad “shit” in this world. There is more than enough negativity and fighting and I don’t want to add any more to it. Every now and then I will have a sweet person comment “oh your life is so great” and “you must be rich” because of flower photos, wedding dresses, etc. But no darlin…I’m just another human being who happens to design weddings for a livin =) I am constantly surrounded by these things and I like to remember those sweet little details in the hustle and bustle of the crazy days. That’s seriously all there is to it.
There is another side that I don’t show. A side that isn’t so glamorous that involves lots of physical pain, emotional distress and a million things i’d rather not showcase. There are those epic 18 hour wedding days, followed by days after the wedding where I feel like I cant even walk cause my legs and feet are in so much pain. There are those days when you have a rehearsal dinner followed by the wedding day and you find out right before it all, that your baby cousin passed away. But you cant call your wedding couple and ask for time off…because you still have a job to do and be completely present while doing it. There is a lot of heartbreak on the sidelines my sweet friends, not just for me in my industry as a wedding planner, but for everyone in any job.
It’s easy to assume that others are somehow better or more successful than you. It’s easy because people tend to show only their best sides to the world. Most people will never show their falls or hurts, because they’re afraid of being judged and alienated. So the next time your scrolling down your feed and you see all that “pretty” and you find yourself comparing your life with theirs…just remember, that person has a heart and they have good days and bad days just like anybody else. They deal with heartache in their own way. They are just like you and me. There is always going to be two sides to our lives. The one that glitters like gold when the days are just amazing and then the dark days that loom upon us when someone we love passes away or when we lose our jobs etc, when “shit” just sucks. Know that everyone struggles. It is the one beautiful thing that unites all of us. It’s life. It goes up and goes down…but it always goes on. xo
Photo courtesy of Wilhelmina Weddings