Happy Monday Birdies! I am so excited to share an amazing new series with you that is going to focus on the whole “saying yes” to being a maid of honor thing, and what comes after you agree to this important task. During this next year we will have the lovely Morgan Gray posting all about her adventures as her sister plans the wedding of her dreams! Morgan will fill us in on everything, and I mean everything. All of the good, all of the bad, and sometimes the not so pretty aspects that we often don’t hear of. So without further ado, here is the lovely Morgan:
Hi Everyone!!! I’m Morgan =) and soon afar my sister said yes to her beau, I said yes to being her maid of honor. Soon after our planning process got underway, as a writer I was overcome with inspiration and the desire to reach out to others going through the same steps as we were. First-hand experience is invaluable, and wedding features and articles online have been such a wonderful source. That’s when it occurred to me – why not reach out to the wonderful blogging/wedding community! It is my true hope that my tips, experiences, and bits of advice will be as useful to you as all of you have been to me. The first part of our series is going to focus on really making this moment memorable for your sister or bff
Dos and Don’ts to Make Your Sister’s Wedding Memorable and Spectacular
The sounds of wedding bells and music is something that I am really looking forward to. Although I am not the one getting married, I am enthralled that I am going to be my sister’s maid of honor. With her upcoming nuptials just around the corner, there are so many things to prepare for. Like every huge event, there have been a few speed bumps along the way. I wanted to share with you some of the expectations as well as the dos and don’ts when it comes to fulfilling your role as maid of honour.
Do: Expect to plan the various pre-parties for the bride-to-be, starting with the bridal shower. The bridal shower is a big task that involves making sure that you invite all of the right guests. Collaborating with the bride on the guest list and some of the highlights of the shower will help assure that you are both on the same page. Party planning can be stressful so to make it easier on myself, I utilized an event planning app that helped me track and organize timelines, the budget, venue management, supplies and RSVPs. What was great about the planning app is that it was integrated to work through my iPad as well as my cell phone, allowing me to stay connected even when I was on the go. I was also able to easily share venue options and party ideas with my sister aka the bride to be. Whether your preferences are pen and paper or an event planning app, I would suggest organizing it all in a central location for you and the bride.
Do: Help out with all pre-wedding activities. This can seem daunting but it is important to offer her support. With my sister, I made sure that I was there from sending out all of the invites to helping her pick out the perfect bridesmaid dresses. While I let her go in her own direction, I offered subtle support that made the huge wedding planning process a little easier.
Do: Help her with her registry. Helping her set up her registry is also a big job. Take the pressure off by suggesting new ideas for her to simplify this exhausting process. The biggest thing was knowing what my sister wants as well as keeping the lines of communication open with the rest of the bridal party. This means planning what wedding gifts to give the bride and pooling together funds for the limos and other post-wedding events. On the opposite end, don’t forget to remind the bride to remember bridesmaid gifts. These should be something special while also commemorating the special day. Charms or bracelets from her favorite jeweler are popular choices among brides.
Don’t: Forget the pampering. This includes you as well! Stress can plague those with a lot on their plate. Taking time out for getting your hair and nails done not just for the wedding but the weeks leading up to it is essential for looking and feeling good. A day at the spa was what we needed to forget about the stress of wedding planning for a bit. We soaked in an outdoor mud bath, had private massages and lounged in a salt water pool for a few hours. The result was reconnecting with what matters most, our relationship as sisters. It was a great time to reflect on how our relationship has grown through the years and where we want it to go in the future. It even helped me with my MOH speech! Just remember to make sure the bride gets the time out she deserves. There are many dos and don’ts when it comes to wedding planning, especially planning your sisters. The biggest thing you can do to help the bride through the entire process is to just be there and offer support when needed. The day will be a special one with many memories to be made.
Photography: Katie Kett Photography